Identify a practice as a favorite
(e.g., connoting it as preferred in relation to a
can be a behavior, emotion, ability, attitude, intent, idea, identity,
or any other “reality” signified as very important in a person’s
Do you think
there is a difference between giving orders/commanding/forcing and asking
How can you tell
when you are giving an order/commanding/forcing and when you are
asking things calmly?
that your son was very angry and that he was “wrong”; Is that so?
According to you,
What’s wrong with getting angry in situations like that?
Not taking an
initiative to collaborate? Not taking others into consideration? Demanding rights without any
Obligations? Something else?
Do you like
anger because it gives you “strength”? does it help you express that you don’t like being
bossed around? Do you like being autonomous, being able to show that if you weren’t commanded you would do
things by yourself?
parents who want to help their children learn to take
responsibilities (or to control themselves; or to respect others; or
Is that something important to you?
When have you noticed glimpses of these
How would you
Does your daughter
know that you’re interested in promoting your
“capacity to cooperate”?
would you know that she’s being more cooperative?
Do you know
someone who is cooperative?
Have you seen her exercise any degree of cooperation?
the best in the house to cooperate? Second best? The third one?…
inspirations or reasons (e.g., utility, kindness, beauty).
do you find it “ugly” not to cooperate?
do you find it admirable to cooperate?
How does it
What has life
taught you about the importance of being cooperative?
Did you learn that?
would happen immediately in your relationship with your daughter if she decided to value and
accept your willingness for her to develop cooperation skills?
would happen after a year? after 10 years?
(changes in) preference status
made any improvement in “cooperation” in the house?
noticed any difference in your daughter’s cooperation in the last year?
in the last month? How did you find out?
How long do
out-of-control episode last in response to requests?
from 1 to
10, how much would you say…?
patience do to the yelling impulse when dealing with non-cooperative behaviors?
help you to cooperate? What else helps you?
act and consolidate
(else) will you do to support/exercise cooperation? Do you have a plan?
Will you practice your cooperation muscles?
What do these changes say
about your relationship?