Prototype for “Caving”

Tolerating aggression (caving) – Attacking

Often associated with Presented Concerns such as: abandoningaggressionattackingbeatingblowing updefendingdefyingdominatingfightingfightsfurygiving ingiving uphittingimposinginsultingirritationmanipulatingminimizingmissing learningprotectingrageself-protectingstormsubmittingswearingthreateningthreatstoleratingupsetviolencewithdrawingyelling

Prototype for “Ignoring”

Blaming and Criticizing – Avoiding, Distancing, Defending , Ignoring

Often associated with Presented Concerns such as: accusingangeravoidingchasingclamming upcommandingcondemningdistancingfrustrationIgnoringimposinginsistingnaggingnon-compliancenon-complyingoverwhelmingshuttingthreateningyelling

Prototype for “Cheating”

Demanding honesty and threatening punishment – Lying or Stealing

Often associated with Presented Concerns such as: accusingantisocialavoidingblamingcheatingdenyingdishonestyevadinghidinglyingnaggingpressuringpunishingstealingsuspiciousthreatening

Prototype for “Insecurity”

Questioning the other – Questioning oneself

Often associated with Presented Concerns such as: anguish anxiety clamming up distress getting anxious insecurity invalidation isolating lack of confidence questioning self-esteem scrutinizing hiding fear worry concern doubt panic timidity judging criticizing excluding distancing tolerating differences